By Teddy Tedbos
All relationships have their bumpy roads but, when one person in the relationship makes a huge mistake the relationship often comes to an abrupt end. Normally it is only one of the two (the one that didn’t blow it) that wants to end it; the other person usually is not ready or does not want to end the relationship.
If you are the one that did something hard to forgive that caused your ex to break up with you don’t make your second mistake by calling your ex every hour trying to get them to talk to you. They left you because you screwed up and now, they don’t want anything to do with you so, and this may not sound right but, give them what they want.
Call once, leave a message apologizing for screwing up and don’t call, text, or email them again. Now you’re probably thinking well, if I don’t call, text, or email more than once, then how am I going to be able to get them back? How do you think your ex will react if you call them thirty times a day trying to make up or fix things? I think you already know the answer to that but, just so it’s clear to you, what will happen is you will shove your ex further away.
This is a mistake that almost everyone makes when the break up first occurs and most never realize that their actions are making the situation worse. What you really should do, is allow them enough time and space to get over the anger they feel toward you. How much time and space will depend on how angry they are, the bigger the mistake the more time and space it will take.
During the time that you are not communicating with your ex you could try to improve yourself by taking a close look at yourself and identifying your bad habits that may have annoyed your ex while you were together. Once you identify these things, begin to work on fixing them, the only thing you should not do, is change who you are as a person, after all that is who your ex fell in love with.
When your ex sees that you are trying to make improvements in yourself they will be more willing to start a conversation with you, if they do call talk to them but stay calm, remember it was you who made the mistake. If they start to yell at you calling you a jerk or maybe even every name in the book, if you get my drift, stay calm, do whatever it takes, and agree with them, apologizing at every turn.
You should also try to keep the call as short as you can, because you won’t be able to salvage things with just one call and if you think that you can you are sadly mistaken. Relationships that are repaired or fixed on the first call will almost always end up falling apart again in the near future.
After the first conversation with your ex you might start to lengthen the future conversations that you have and at this point it could be just like when you first met. The reason for that is because the relationship you had no longer exists, it’s gone, now you have to build a new one which, may or may not be easy depending on how badly you screwed up. If the break up happened because you cheated on your ex then the road ahead will be long, hard, and all uphill, it is however, still possible to get your ex back.
No matter what the mistake was, to get an ex back is always possible if you use a detailed step by step plan and stick with it, start to finish.
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