The emotional wreckage that comes after the discovery of an affair, makes it tough for couples to work towards maintaining their marriage after infidelity has occurred.However your marriage after an affair can also become a relationship that is stronger and more loving than it was before. Read on to discover how you can achieve this…
Moving forward after an episode of infidelity can only get underway when the betrayed party realizes they need to offer forgiveness for the act..If you are finding forgiveness especially difficult hopefully the tips below can help in some small way:
Work on creating a new version of your marriage
A natural reaction to a marital affair is to desire a return to the way things were in the past… oddly even if before was not so great. Unfortunately in most situations this is not a possibility. The trust that has been broken means the past cannot be reclaimed and your relationship cannot be mended in such a simple fashion.
A much healthier approach is to look at this as a fresh start – a new marriage with redefined roles and values..
Try not to focus on the negative emotions
You have every reason to feel these negative emotions, but continually focusing on them will only add to the depth or your anger and resentment.By letting these emotions get the better of you, you risk driving an even larger barrier between you and your partner which may prove impossible to overcome
If you are ever becoming so enraged that you cannot have a proper conversation simply tell your spouse you are angry and need some time to calm down then maybe go for a walk.. A successful recovery from infidelity in marriage is dependent on your ability to keep communication open when your anger tells you to shut them down.
Do you want to know more about surviving an affair and rebuilding the trust and love in your marriage? If so click below to hear my story and how it can help you.