Mending a broken relationship is one of the hardest obstructions married people can face. It’s because at the place where a union or marriage has failed, it feels as if it’s beyond repair. Lovers generally call it quits at this point thinking that there is no way their partnership can be saved. That is when they part ways and the marriage comes to an end.
Here’s something to consider though. When there is true love involved, care and respect for one another, and a desire in each spouse to seek to make things right, mending a broken relationship absolutely is possible. You just need to know how to achieve that goal.
Here are the 5 critical factors that need to be addressed in mending a broken relationship:
Effort – a bigger amount of effort will be required to mend your relationship compared to what was given when you and your spouse, or lover began your relationship. As an example, remember back to when you and your spouse first came together. How much effort was required when the two of you just began as mates? Love was young and your lover could not be more perfect.
Now, all those adorable little habits that used to be so endearing to begin with are difficult to cope with. And the matters that carried your relationship to the edge are tough to move past. Realize, you were already on the edge of breaking up and setting yourself up for that end. It will demand additional effort on the part of each party to not make the next move that would cause that outcome.
Communication – a commitment to keeping an open line of communication is a necessity in mending a broken relationship. This may mean more talking about more subjects than you’re use to. This could mean calling your mate, boyfriend, or girlfriend at assorted times during the day merely to socialize with them. Tell them how your day is going. Inquire how their day is going. Talk about what happened while you were at work. Be more open about how you are feeling. This lets your lover know that you care about them enough to add them in what is happening in assorted areas of your life.
It is essential to understand that keeping open lines of communication doesn’t imply hashing the same issues over and over again. Indeed the difficulties the both of you are going through should be tackled, they shouldn’t be on the inventory of nightly conversations. Going that route will merely cause the desire to fix a failing relationship to disappear.
Respect – let me ask you one question, “how much care and love are you willing to present someone who doesn’t respect you?” Now think about your mate or lover? How much love and care do you believe they would give you if you don’t respect them? It is a natural human desire to want to be respected and appreciated. Without it, no relationship could ever be expected to last…much less saved.
Self growth – here’s where the rubber meets the road. This key point is one of the most important when it comes to mending a broken relationship.
No one is perfect. The second we think we are or even if we think we are too old or should not have to change…well, quite frankly that’s when we missed out on the reason for life. Life is about learning and growing til we change into the best we can possibly be. And although we may be better today than we were yesterday, we can still make improvements.
Commit to yourself, because you can only answer to you and for you, to continue to grow, change, and improve to be a better person. That may involve the way you treat or communicate with others. It could entail your ability to let another person in emotionally or perhaps even letting go and not being so needy or insecure. It could also involve improving on your physique. (That alone is guaranteed to make good changes in a variety of ways.) There are a number of ways we can develop ourselves that will help save a relationship.
Patience – Have you heard any of these quotes?
• “Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow – that is patience.”
• “The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.”
• “He that can have patience, can have what he will”
• “Patience and fortitude conquer all things”
• “All good things come to he who waits”
You probably all ready know, being impatience is one of the most arduous traits to conquer. But as you can tell from these quotes, there is one underlying theme pertaining to the attribute of patience as well. That is that there is great reward for those who are patient.
In your effort to mend a failing relationship, patience will go a long way to producing a positive outcome. The modifications you and your spouse are making will call for time and effort. Be patient with the time it requires and the efforts you and your mate are making and you will find success in your attempt in mending a broken relationship.