You can put up with only so much. The mood swings. The crazy behavior. The humiliation. You have tried your best, you have put everything into trying to save your marriage, but you have reached a point where whatever you do, whatever you say, it just isn’t working. It isn’t getting through to them. Their midlife crisis has ended your marriage and now divorce is the only way out.
Do not fret. I have been in this situation. I know many other people who have also been in this situation. Life seems hopeless, the life you have had with your partner, all those years are now over. It hurts like hell, but there is a way out. There is light at the end of the tunnel. If you can now find the right attitude and right beliefs in yourself, you will come through this stronger, healthier and a better person.
Your partner’s midlife crisis can actually turn out to be a midlife opportunity for you if you can apply positive techniques.
It’s going to take time though. It is a cliché, but time is a great healer. The first thing you need to do though, is to take the focus off of them and put it onto yourself. Your emotional, mental and physical health is very important and you must not neglect this.
Once you have this under control, your next step is to find yourself a good lawyer. You now need to get yourself sorted and set up for the rest of your life. Chances are your spouse is probably spending money like it’s out of fashion, so you need to contact a lawyer and find out your rights and act on them as soon as possible.
Thirdly, find yourself a life. Go out with friends, see family more, join a club, but the important thing is to focus on gearing yourself to a happy and bright future. To give yourself hope again.
As I say, none of this is easy to do, but you are going to have to go through it. You have no choice, but what you do have choice in is how you apply yourself to your future and how you respond to all this. Attitude is key, and a positive frame of mind is essential. I have been through this and it took time, patience and a lot of soul searching, but I believe I have come out of it a more compose, independent and stronger person. I like myself much more than I did 18 months ago.
I hope you can too.