What is game? Game is a metaphor we used in the dating world to desensitize or objectify what we experience out in social gathering so we won’t take it personally. And I got to tell you, it can hurt. There will be nights when you will regret having gone out than if you had stayed home and wish that you had stayed in your shell. What is this feeling? It can be depression, dissatisfaction, disappointment, embarrassment, failure, etc.
But this is a stage, and if you ever want take your game to the next level you have to got through those pains for they will be the lessons for you to absorb so you then can polish your social intuition and calibration. In fact, don’t even pay attention on these negative emotions for they will drain you and cause you to have a less objective view on your social performance. Reframe it in “what can I learn from this?”
This is a great mindset to always have…”what can I learn from this?” As studies show, those people who are most successful in life are those who never gives up and have the gift of persistence that everybody lacks causing them to give up immediately at the sign of opposition.
“When the going gets tough, the tough gets going.”
Dating and meeting women is no different from that. Those that are most consistently successful are bond to also shows signs of success in other areas because their life are well made out and balanced, supporting each other like a pyramid of necessity that drives deep inner human emotions ingrained in all of us.
So you are out in a club and you approach a girl, you get the girl talking, you two are dancing having fun and laughing, and you say to yourself, “Already, I got this chick now!” and spend the entire night only with her, then out of nowhere she pulls away and acts like she hasn’t met you. What happened? Instead of focusing on the negative emotions of failure or dissatisfaction, thank them for the lessens you have learned.
Maybe you were too clinging and needy latching on to her the whole night and so will need to break away, or you were speaking too much, or not contributing enough to the interaction. Whatever the reason, take a step back and reflect upon it to get the bigger picture, which is to improve your skills in the long haul instead of beating yourself up over one little loss; that is how you will master this game.