There is no worse feeling in the world when you find out somebody who seems like you have a great relationship is only using you because they want something.
What is having an authentic relationship?
Well, in any kind of relationship, whether that is having a girlfriend, friends or even anybody, there must be an exchange of value.
When one person is bestowing away more value than is being reciprocated, they will feel taken advantage of; and those who are leeching those values without offering any value in return, are value-cravers; they always want something from other people, and that is the biggest reason they want to be around you.
Yet the thing is, if you don’t have any value to offer people, they will likely discard you.
The thing to make sure whoever is in your life isn’t using you, give value that is slightly higher than what they are offering you back.
If they aren’t offering any value back at all, just give them slightly above nothing, and don’t expect them to get more than that when they ask for more. That’s the boundary you have in place.
Usually the biggest signs you can tell if you’re dealing with value-cravers, who constantly crave for things without returning any favor when needed in the future, is that they tend to be unreliable and unreciprocal. When you finally need them, they vanish from you and only reappear when they want what you have to offer again.
We all heard the story of how somebody was using somebody else because they have more assets and connections, and those are tangible values; however, you want to offer intangible values, the positive exchange of emotional values.
Now, if you don’t possess any asset or tangible values they’re interested, but people really take pleasure in being around you because they get this positive energy from you and that you offer great stimuli to them which make them feel great, they will want you around.
That is the ideal social dynamics interaction should go with anybody.