Painful isn’t the word to describe how you feel if your ex has told you that he hates you. You might feel that there really is no hope and want to just go crawl in a hole. But there really is hope if you sincerely desire to get him back and make him fall in love with you again and it’s really not that difficult.
The first thing that you should know is that your ex’s outburst or hateful words are not what they seem. Even though he might be acting as if he really does hate you it should be the passion in his voice and actions that should tell you that there is hope. After all, without passion there is no love and without passion there is no “hate”. Remember that the opposite of love is not hate. It is apathy or feeling nothing for another human being.
Even if your ex does say that he feels nothing for you this is probably just a front that he is putting up. He is building a wall around his heart and around himself and right now he just doesn’t want to let you in. Why? Probably because you want him back so badly that you are scaring him away. You are repelling him and pushing him away every time you try to contact him or talk to him or make any move towards opening the lines of communication again in hopes of getting him back.
But how can you get him back without doing these things? The only way that you are going to be able to get him back is if you make him want the relationship again. Once you are able to make him feel something for you again then you will have something to work with. How far you push things and what emotional hot buttons you are able to exploit in him will be the deciding factor in how quickly he comes back and how much he begs you for another chance.
You see, in spite of the fact that guys say that they are not emotional about relationships it is emotions that will bring your ex around and make him regret dumping you in the first place. It will be emotions that make him change his mind and emotions that will make him pursue you again. Without that emotional nudge or “push” you hold little chance of getting him back. He will have no reason to change his mind until he feels connected to you again and wants you, body, mind and soul. The choice is up to you but once you start to see the change in your ex you will know that you made the right choice.