Breaking up with a boy or girlfriend is often a heartbreaking process, and rare is the day that a romantic split is actually wanted by both sides. Whether you got dumped or have just thought better of a relationship you ended, then you probably feel like you will go crazy if you can’t get your dearly beloved back to your side. Below you’ll find tips that can help you learn how to get your ex back.
1. Stay friends
“Let’s just be friends” is a phrase that love-struck men and women have both come to hate. This is only natural. If you are madly in love with someone, you really don’t want to be just friends. Despite the fact that being friends seems so unappealing compared to being much more, it’s the best road to take if you are trying to reconnect with an ex.
The relationship obviously ended for a reason and your ex may still be suffering from the pain of the break up; harassing him or her will get you no where and will only make them want to push you further out of their lives. Be a friend to your ex and let them know you still care about them, even though you are not together anymore. Show him/her that you still want to be a part of their life.
2. Be in touch wih your ex, but don’t be intrusive
Excellent ways to be in touch are, for example, one or two emails per week or phone calls every other week. Today, also social networks, such as Facebook, are a great way to be connected with your ex without being too intimate. However, you need to be careful not to become too truculent. No one wants their ex calling them at three in the morning or commenting on every picture they post online.
3. Don’t over-apologize
This is a problem many people seem to have when trying to win ex back. Maybe you were a jerk, maybe it is your fault that the relationship ended; that doesn’t mean that you have to apologize every time you see your ex. All it needs is to properly apologize two or three weeks after the break up. Then you can move on.
4. Don’t blame
One of the worst things you can do is trying to make your ex feel guilty. If you truly think that they’re that bad then you probably don’t even want them back.
5. If you want them to think you’ve changed, then change!
If you feel that there is something in your behavior your ex can’t stand, then you have to do something about it. You have to change that part of your behavior. While this shouldn’t mean that you have to give up your personality, it does mean you could stop throwing your socks in the corner or picking your teeth in public.
6. Take time to remember
Think about your ex’s likes and dislikes, then act on them. For instance, if he likes that red dress, wear it when you go to see him, or if it’s her birthday, then send her a card.
Stay in touch with your ex and keep up a good relationship with them. In this way you have a good chance to get back with your ex. However, don’t become overly anxious and frustrated if the process is slow; instead, let time take its course as healing happens and your hearts are once again brought closer together. Also, if you don’t get back together, at least you have developed a good relationship with each other and you both can move on without any bitterness.