It used to be that people would look at being 40 as ‘over the hill.’ And dating over the age of 40 was kind of a taboo subject as by that age, you were kind of expected to have already gotten married and started a family. But, at the same time, people used not to live as long as they do now, divorce used to be uncommon, and it wasn’t outside the realm of reason for people to stay with someone because it was the ‘right’ thing to do. Well, things have certainly changed, now, haven’t they?
Dating over the age of 40 is a lot more common, as people are living longer and realizing that they don’t have to settle down at a certain age. People have become more career oriented, and that leads to them staying single because they are focused on their careers and their dreams. And we all know that the divorce rate has edged pretty highly and it’s not nearly as taboo of a subject. All of this adds up to the fact that there are more people than ever who are single, over the age of 40, and looking to meet someone.
So, it really does not have to be that hard, as there are going to be plenty of people out there who are in the same situation you are in. With a lot of the social taboos removed from dating over the age of 40, you don’t have to worry about that, either.
I think that most people who seem to see dating over 40 as being hard do so simply because that is the way that they see it, not because that is the way that it is. Think about it. You are probably financially independent, you have been doing your own thing for a while now, so it’s not like you are looking for someone to help you survive. You also probably have a much clearer picture of who you are and what you want out of life.
This means that you will be a lot less likely to pick the wrong person, or to end up in a relationship with someone that you eventually outgrow. Sure, it can still happen and it does, but your odds are probably a lot better than when you were in your 20’s and you did not really have a good idea about who you were and what you wanted.
The other really good thing about dating in your 40’s nowadays, is that there are many more places that you can go to meet people. You don’t just have to rely on the bar and club scene anymore, there are online dating sites you can join, different social clubs and groups where people will have the same interests as you, etc.
If you feel like dating over the age of 40 is tough, you may want to change the way that you look at things. Appreciate the fact that you are more in tune with who you are and what you want out of life. Appreciate the fact that you don’t have to head to a bar or club if that is not your thing. And appreciate that most of the social taboos about dating in your 40’s have been removed.