Have you got a cheating wife? You need to find out for sure. Many a good relationship or marriage has floundered through infidelity, but probably as many have also floundered because a partner falsely suspects that their husband or wife is cheating.
Jealousy can be as dangerous and destructive as cheating is in itself. So if you are becoming a jealous, suspicious partner you need to bare in mind that to carry on in this manner is just as wrong as cheating in the first place. But how on earth can you find out for sure? There are many ways. Some of them are quite obvious – but some of them are not so obvious.
But one thing is certain. Life is hard and sometimes unbearable when you suspect that you have a cheating wife but can’t be sure. When I unfortunately found myself in this unpleasant situation I even wondered if my child was mine or someone elses – not a nice thought.
If you find out that you have been betrayed this can leave you in a very difficult situation. Personally, I spent five whole years trying to forgive my cheating wife while I was still with her. Five years – that’s a really long time. And you’re probably thinking that in the end I found it too difficult and gave up? Wrong!
I could handle forgiving her,(she was worth it) but she could not handle being forgiven! And there is another side to it. Why on earth did she do it in the first place? For a little bit of fun on the side? Nope, not in my case. In my case I was the one at fault for much of the relationship and it was only when she could cope no more that she found it impossible to end. There was only one way out for her. Self-destruction of the relationship.
It’s a funny old life but this is the truth. I was very bitter for a long time. She destroyed the relationship to the extent where I had to do something. She was just happy to ‘sit in’ there so that I was the one who take the blame. But once all the rowing and fighting had become so bad that it was upsetting our three year old son I just had to do something. I tried hard to repair it, but she wanted out so she railroaded all of my attempts to do this.
I found out afterwards that she was planning for her future for a long time. Future partners were being lined up. She was also creating circumstances so that when the inevitable split occurred, she came out of it on top financially whereas I was screwed. Cowardly behaviour? Yes. Expect it. It’s human nature, sadly, for some people. Well this world revolves around the survival of the fittest. I was grieving, she was planning ahead. She might have been a cheating wife but she was never a stupid wife.
Married people are now in the minority in our country. I find that very sad. One of the most common reasons for divorce is a cheating spouse. Men cheat on their wives and women cheat on their husbands. It seems that the stigma that was once attached to the cheating spouse has diminished and people no longer find it shocking to discover the reason that their neighbors divorced was because of a cheating spouse. Admit it, if you are talking to your best friend and she mentions how her husband has been distant lately and has been putting in long hours at work, one of your first thoughts is that he must be a cheating spouse. And for men, if a buddy mentions that his wife has been spending a lot of time going out with her girlfriends, especially if she has single friends, the first think you think is that she must be a cheating spouse.
Cheating spouse are very common on TV and in movies. In some respects, it almost seems that the act of having an affair and cheating on your spouse is romanticized in movies and on TV. And then there is always the poor unsuspecting spouse who is left at home wondering what is going on. Always the last to know.
I believe that the long term effects of being involved in a relationship that has a spouse cheating are devastating to the spouse that is being cheated on. If they suspect their spouse is being unfaithful, the stress of not knowing can have ill effects on their mental and physical well being. Losing sleep because of an unfaithful spouse is very common. In order to take control of your happiness, you need to find out the truth and deal with it. It is unfortunate that infidelity is so common in society today but it is a fact. If you have ever been cheated on by a spouse or significant other, you know that affects your ability to trust in future relationships.