On some level, I think we all know just how powerful words can be. String the right words together, and you can have an amazing amount of influence on another person. String the wrong ones together, and they can end up hating you, not trusting you, and not wanting to a thing to do with you at all. When it comes to seduction, words can be one of the most powerful tools in your arsenal, or they can make you look like just another creep, trying too hard to get a woman into bed.
What makes the difference between success and failure in this example?
Well, for one, if you think that seducing a woman with words means that you are going to be able to have some almost magical power or hypnotic ability… then you may already be setting yourself up for failure. Seducing a woman really has nothing much to do with magic or hypnosis. Take a look at what a natural does. He doesn’t go around using magic tricks, or trying to put women into trances to get them into bed. That’s what the ‘creepy’ guys do.
Yet, most naturals DO have a way with words, and that is one of the reasons why it seems so easy for them to be able to seduce a woman into bed.
If you want to have that ability, then you have to learn to do what they do ‘naturally,’ so that you can end up getting the same kinds of results that they do. Have you ever noticed how one person can say something to someone and completely offend them, and another person can say the same thing and have them cracking up and laughing?
What makes the difference there?
It’s all about the delivery.
I’m a HUGE fan of stand up comedy, there are many days where the only thing I watch on television is stand up comedy. When you watch it that much, you pick up on a lot of things. And one of the things is, the low level no name comedians who are never going to get a big name, get a movie to star in or their own television special– they usually tell practically the same kinds of jokes as the big names.
So, why do they flop and flounder?
Their delivery. They say the same thing and it’s just not nearly as funny as when a Chris Rock says it or a Dane Cook. And they also usually lack the stage presence to capture the crowd’s attention. The high level comedians, can usually save a joke that bombs by chastising the audience for not laughing. They say something like, “Come on, that ways funny… you know it” and the audience goes from quiet to rolling with laughter.
The low level comedians, they just bomb.
So, what does this really have to do with seducing a woman with words?
It’s simple, if you have the right presence, the right delivery… it has a dramatic effect on whether or not she likes you, is attracted to you… or if you just bomb in her eyes. That is what makes the difference between success and failure more than just about anything else.