Are you thinking of using the no contact rule to get your husband back? Are you trying with everything that you’ve got to get him to change his mind about the divorce? Are you willing to go to just about any length to keep him from becoming your ex and you feel like it’s “go time”? Well, it’s time to do something to save your marriage, right?
A divorce or impending divorce has to be one of the most heartbreaking things that you can go through in your life. Second only to a spouse dying, it is the most stressful thing that you will ever go through in your life. This I am sure you understand and no doubt you would rather lose a limb than have the lingering pain that accompanies losing the man that you love.
I am not too proud to admit that I know first hand about this pain but I am here to tell you that there will come a day when the pain will begin to go away. Of course, you would rather that this pain go away because your husband came back to you. You would rather wind up back in his loving arms again with your relationship and your marriage back better than it was before, right? Well, that is what I want to help you with. This is what brings me joy and delight in my life… helping people to come back together again.
Now, while you might read all over the place that the no contact rule is the way to get your husband to come back to you I want to tell you that this should not be the only thing that you should rely upon to get him back. The no contact rule is great for a start but it might never bring your husband back to you all on its own. Avoiding contact with your husband or distancing yourself from him will never make him feel the love and passion that is necessary to make him fall back in love with you again.
Think of it this way… if you do nothing then what is actually going to change his mind? What will he have to draw him back to you again? If you do nothing then nothing is really going to change. This is a perilous position to be in and a gamble on fate, if you ask me. This is why I cringe when I hear women tell me that they were told to use the no contact rule to get their husband to come back to them. It rarely works alone and many marvelous relationships with great potential are ruined when a woman abides by this rule and sits waiting for her husband to show up at the door.
What is to keep your husband from moving on to another relationship because he feels that you have accepted the divorce and it’s ok for him to start seeing other women? This is why it is important to have a few tricks up your sleeve to begin to build that connection with him when the time is right. Like what kind of tricks, you might ask?
My suggestion would be to start with the no contact rule for sure. Distance yourself physically and emotionally from him as best you can but when the time is right be ready to bowl him over and knock his socks off with that charming personality that he loved when you first got together… only better! Look at it this way… do you enjoy being friends with those who are constantly complaining or unhappy? How do you feel when you are around sad, negative people that suck the energy out of you? Wouldn’t you rather enjoy the company of those who are upbeat and fun to be around? Your husband is no different and he wants to be with someone that is engaging and fun!
While this is just the tip of the iceberg and there are ways to boost the effectiveness of the no contact rule and make him desire you and be ingrigued by you. There are ways of bringing out emotions in your husband that you thought were long dead and make him interested in you again by using such things as reverse psychology and psychological tricks that are unique to just males of the species. Such things can not only speed the process up but actually have your husband pursuing you again like he did when you first started dating.
There is a book that I would suggest that you check out if this interests you. It’s written by Matt Huston and there are women that swear by it. It might be just what you are looking for if you have tried to get your husband to come back to you but things are just becoming unbearable. Many women have found success within its pages and it helped them to understand male psychology and what they needed to do to not only avoid the divorce but to have their husband eating out of their hand.