While there may be times when you doubt that you will ever be able to get your husband back, I want to help you through probably the most difficult part of actually getting him back. That part is having the confidence and assurance that if you are serious about getting him back that you can indeed win his heart back again.
If you’re anything like me, you feel tossed about by your emotions and you waver from being sure one moment that he will come back to you and then in tears the next moment that he is gone forever. You women’s intuition might tell you one moment that he still loves you and then the next that this is all but a lie. While our women’s intuition might be a keen and powerful tool, it can be difficult at times to differentiate between what is real and what feelings are motivated by our own fear. That is where logic might help you to realize that, if played correctly, you husband’s heart can be yours again.
Logic and Affairs of the Heart – While many might say that logic has no place in affairs of the heart, looking at things logically or from a man’s perspective can help you to see what is actually going on. Sitting down and thinking about your breakup and the impending divorce with a level head and a logical mind can bring great relief to your heart and your confidence that you can get your husband back. There may be times when it seems as if your husband doesn’t love you at all but what is causing those emotions in him? What have you done personally to bring out such apathy and uncaring in the man that once promised to love you forever?
Often after a split the balance of emotions are so out of balance that they can cause one partner to feel almost the opposite of what the other partner feels. This means that as you work at saving your marriage, your husband is repelled by any thought of getting back together. He digs in his heels and resists like a small child and you are left frustrated with trying to figure out what will make him change his mind. The fact is that if your husband loved you once he will love you again. That love doesn’t go anywhere and it is a matter of time before he realizes that he made a mistake and wants to come back. It is up to you to decide how long you want it to be before he does come back. You make that decision by how to deal with him from here on out.
What Does Your Heart Say? – It can be very confusing when you see your husband as you try to figure out what the truth is and what is just a reaction to the breakup and what has happened since he left. Men are not terribly emotional creatures and your husband is more reactionary than reflective when it comes to his emotions. Often the primary emotion for men is anger or defensiveness and in the wake of your spit this emotion is amplified one hundred fold. Everything that you do and everything that you say is thought of as a trap and he will react like more like an animal in a cage than the man you love.
The only place to find the truth about your relationship and the future of your marriage is within your own heart. Look inside yourself and ask yourself if you can remember times when you felt truly loved. Remember back to times when you knew without a doubt that he loved you with every bit of his being. If your husband felt like this at one time then it is absolutely possible to make him feel this way again. That is the truth about his heart and the future that you can have together.
Are You Ready To Fight For Your Love? – While you might be more of a lover than a fighter, this kind of fighting might determine the entire outcome and direction of your life. What is at stake touches on every aspect of your life from here on out including financial, emotional and romantic aspects of your life. Doing what needs to be done to save your marriage and get your husband back means no holds barred, cage match tactics if need be. Of course, we are talking about emotionally and figuratively. There might be times when you want to just quit and let your husband walk away but remember that forever is a very long time.
Now, while you might want to try traditional methods to get your husband to change his mind, these methods have very little chance of success given the fact that he is acting as if he doesn’t really love you at all or feel any desire to get back together. In order for you to save your marriage you are going to need to make him feel something again. I know that this might sound almost impossible and I am not talking about seducing him or anything crazy like that. Those methods really don’t work too well either, by the way.
In order for you to get your husband back you are going to need to know how to make him fall in love with you again. He is going to have to feel passion, desire, emotion and love for you beyond what he did when you first got together. While you might be confused right now, it is a simple matter of balancing out the relationship dynamic again and make him start chasing you. You need to understand how guys think and work and what will actually move him emotionally to change his mind and decide that he simply can’t live without you in his life.
If you are at a total loss for what to say or what to do to get your husband back, I found that the methods in Matt Huston Get Him Back helped to turn my ex around very quickly. While these methods might be a little unorthodox and underhanded, I knew that I had to do what I had to do what was necessary to get him back