Everyone wants to have great, hot, steamy sex every time but the reality is that sex in a long term relationship can get a bit stale. Better lovemaking becomes the goal of many couples in this situation who frantically look for new things to try but end up making some bad lovemaking mistakes that actually makes their experience less than what it was before!

In the interests of better love making everywhere here are some of the most common mistakes that lovers tend to making in their quest for better sex.

1. Being Too Scared/Embarrassed To Talk About New Things

This is all too common and really shouldn’t be as the person we are making love to should be the person we can communicate with about these things best! Sometimes we may be worried about what they may think however but for the most part your partner will crave new things too so go ahead and ask! It does not need to be crude or kinky but there are thousands of ways to add excitement and passion to your lovemaking that you can explore only if you talk and become comfortable with it!

2. Convincing Them To Have Sex

Oh boy, men mainly make this mistake, but sometime women too! If your lover is not in the mood for sex as they are too tired or distracted then trying to talk them into it is not going to work. Instead you have to raise their arousal levels slowly because when the body becomes sexually interested it releases adrenaline into the system giving energy to make love.

• Ladies – If your man seems disinterested in sex but you need some love don’t just expect a man to jump at the chance if they really are tired. Instead pay some attention to his manhood by fellatio or by hand. Men are also visual creatures so wearing something sexy or nothing at all will help! An interesting point is that a man’s testosterone levels are highest at 9-10 AM during the day so this is the best time to get him turned on.
• Men – Women are very different from us, do not rush in to the obvious sexual areas to turn them on, leave the breasts and crotch alone and concentrate on looking into her eyes, kissing her neck lightly and stroking area near the obvious sexual ones gently. Go slow and when they react positively move to kissing the mouth and so on.

3. Rushing Foreplay To Get To Intercourse

Again many people look at men as the main offenders here but sometimes women do the same and both end up missing out on something amazing. Did you know that lot’s of foreplay actually adds to the intensity of an orgasm for both men AND women?
The more you kiss, touch, caress and so forth before the act of intercourse the more aroused we become and more feel good chemicals in our body are produced or build up for the climax. This means that it is ALWAYS a good idea to just slow it down a little and enjoy playing some games with each other and pleasuring them without intercourse for as long as you can before you just have to move on!

4. Getting Sex Toys Or Porn For Your Lovemaking

There is a time and a place for these things but sometimes we tend to rush into these things to soon when we hit a rough patch sexually and it backfires.
Why? Because you do not your lover to end up looking more forward to the plastic toy or watching the porn than actually finding pleasure in each others bodies! Before you include any of these things you need to know how to please your partner in all ways before introducing something else … use these things as spice and variety not as a central part of your lovemaking.

5. Trying To Climax Your Woman From Just Intercourse

Ok Guys and girls listen up. Men, you might feel less of a man if you can not satisfy your girl from intercourse but the reality is that this is not always going to happen and it is not your fault! Some women can not achieve orgasm through intercourse even and those that can sometimes have difficulty depending on a range of factors including the time of the month, hormone levels, mood and so on.
Girls, by the same token do not put pressure on men to make you orgasm from intercourse as there are many other ways to climax if you let your man try some things!
One of the best ways to do this is by mastering the art of cunnilingus (going down on your women). If done right all pressure is off you on the lovemaking because you can make her climax with just your mouth and tongue.

6. Trying For Simultaneous Orgasms

This is seriously overrated, instead of being some mystical moment of combined pleasure where you come as one it ends up being a labor of timing and holding off and stuffing around and when it does happen … that connection is not actually there.
Instead you should focus completely on satisfying the woman’s needs first because women take a lot longer and are harder to climax than a man most of the time. Once you both learn to give totally to the other in lovemaking it becomes even more intense as the connection comes from being able to give such an experience and take it in with all your senses.

That’s the secret.

7. Do What Works Best … Every time

A little sarcasm there … sorry! While you might understand you need to break out of a routine for better lovemaking some people are afraid to vary too much thinking if it ain’t broke why fix it? The reason it ‘wear and tear’ to take the machine metaphor a step further, while it may not break or fail a boring sex life even if it is still enjoyable can have dire effects on your relationship especially if you also make mistake number one.
Instead be open to change a bit at a time, no need to try new things all the time every time but without spice and variety and excitement sex loses that spark that brings couples together so closely at the beginning of a relationship.

So what is the secret to better lovemaking? The answer is having enough knowledge, tips and ideas to spice up your sex long into the future because the only way to recreate the excitement and enthusiasm that we once had is to make it new again in small ways every time.

For more information that can give you this repertoire click here to find out more on how to have better lovemaking!

Tags: better love making, better lovemaking, better sex, lovemaking mistakes, lovemaking tips, sex mistakes, sex tips