Are you a Christian and having problems in your marriage? Do you see yourself on the verge of divorce? Are you searching for solutions to salvage your marriage? Don’t give up, you are not alone.
Often people will think that Christians have no problems in their marriages. Sometimes non-Christians seem to think Christians are so lucky that they don’t have marital issues, but then they won’t try to find out why that is, even though it’s a mistaken perception. Sometimes Christians themselves erroneously think that they are not supposed to have any problems in their marriage because of the fact that they are Christian. The truth is, Christians are still human and will still have problems when two people with different minds, different thoughts, and different viewpoints disagree with each other.
God is the one who ordained the covenant of marriage. It was His idea from the start, and he gave us some important guidelines to do it His way. The problem is we often desire to do it our own way because we tend to think the ways God said a marriage should be are old-fashioned and sexist. This usually comes from a misinterpretation of Ephesians 5:22 where the Bible says, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” This is even a common excuse some people have for not being a Christian at all. However, this is usually taken completely out of context, because right after that, in verse 25, it says, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church, and gave Himself for it.” A husband is supposed to love his wife with a sacrificial love, willingly giving all of himself to her. He is not supposed to be bossy toward her, treat her cruelly, take her for granted, or talk down to her. If the husband is excercising such a love for his wife, then she should willingly “submit” to his authority over the home, show him loving respect, and willingly come under his sheltering love and care. It’s a give and take and neither the husband nor the wife is to be a dictator or a tyrant. You may be in a troubled Christian marriage or perhaps you’re a non-Christian with marriage problems looking for a way to save your marriage and prevent the pain of divorce. You may be seeing things fall apart in your marriage and you may be going crazy asking yourself “how can I restore my marriage?” If this describes you, then I have found a very valuable resource to help couples save their marriage and avoid divorce by doing things God’s way. I’ve written a little about it and I’ve linked to it on my blog, where you’ll also find other Christian life articles, devotionals and links.