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Increase Your Chances Of Getting Laid By 43%

Jul 30

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Here’s a quick story about a date I had last night.

Now, when you’re trying to score with a woman, you’ve got to eliminate her feelings of UNCERTAINTY.

Women have all kinds of reasons to NOT talk to us, to NOT give us their phone number, to NOT go on a date, and to NOT have sex with us.

And a lot of this is because they don’t feel SECURE with you yet.

So here’s a real fast tip if you want to take a woman on a date…

Don’t offer to pick her up. This might set off “red flags” in her mind. If she barely knows you, she might not want you to know where she lives.

This is understandable. A lot of guys (not like you) have stalker-ish tendencies, and maybe she’s been through this with a guy before. Or maybe she knows a girl who has.

So if you barely know the girl, but you got her phone number, and now it’s time to take her out, don’t suggest picking her up.

Here’s what you do instead. Tell her to meet you out in front of your place. Give her your address, tell her to meet you out front at a certain time, and tell her that the two of you can “roll together” to the spot.

(The bar, coffee shop, restaurant, party, etc — wherever you plan on taking her tonight.)

She’ll go for this suggestion because of two reasons:

A) It eliminates her fear that she’s going to have to try to find the date location, and she might get lost. You’re making it easy on her by suggesting that the two of you go there together.

B) She’s probably going to be curious to see where you live. You didn’t tell her that she’d be coming INSIDE your place. You only asked her to meet you out front. But still, she’s curious to at least see the exterior of your pad.

So now, here’s what you do. When she pulls up outside your place, you go outside, as if you’re all ready to go on the date, and ask her if she wants to take two cars, or if she wants to ride in your car.

Either way she answers, here’s what you do next: you tell her that you forgot something back inside your place. You tell her you need to go back inside for a minute.

And then you INVITE her to come in — “just for a minute,” you tell her.

So, you bring her into your place, and you let her hang out in the living room for a few minutes while you go into the other room and pretend to be getting the item that you forgot.

And then, you go with her on the date.

What was the purpose of this exercise? It’s actually SUPER important. You showed her the inside of your home and you let her get familiar with it.

It is no longer a strange environment to her.

There is no longer a “fear of the unknown.”

At the end of the date, when you invite her back to your place, this doesn’t feel SCARY to her because she has ALREADY been inside your home, and knows that it’s comfortable and inviting.

(But ONLY if your home is set up the right way, and even more importantly, it’s CLEAN…)

This sounds like a simple Tactic, but it really works. I ALWAYS try to show a woman the inside of my home, just for a few minutes, before I take her out on a date.

And you know what?

NOT using this Tactic, when I would invite her back to my place at the end of the night, I’d be successful around 43% of the time.

When I DO USE this Tactic, girls come home with me around 90% of the time. (And when they come home with me, I know how to close the deal.)

It all comes down to FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN.

Women are big on this. Guys are not!

(If a girl was HOT, I would drive in the middle of the night to the WORST part of town just to get laid! I wouldn’t care where she lived — I was going for the sex!)

But if you invite a woman back to YOUR place… and she has never seen it before…maybe she worries that it’s filthy, or that you have a bunch of roommates, or that it’s too far away, or whatever…there all kinds of little “red flags” popping off in her mind about why maybe going to your place is NOT a good idea.

And that’s when she’ll say, “Umm, thanks, but not tonight, I need to be up early tomorrow…”

Well, you AVOID all of this, and set her mind at EASE, when you “preface” the date by inviting her inside for a few minutes.

Then, at the end of the night, when it’s time to invite her home…it feels to her like a MUCH safer and more comfortable scenario, because she’s already been inside.

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Great Kissing Tips For The First Kiss

Jun 7

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Here you are with the ideas of what your first date might be like, and you imagine that it’s going to go well. Then you start to wonder if you should give her a goodnight kiss or just walk away.

These questions are quite popular among many first time daters. There are certain women you may want to give that mouth to mouth kiss on the first date, while there are other ones who don’t inspire that same feeling. Then again you have to ask yourself, “Does she even want me to kiss her at all tonight?” The first kiss can be so hard. The kissing tips below can help alleviate some of the stress that accompanies the first kiss.

Kissing Tips to Help You Survive the First Kiss

To determine whether or not to give her that passionate goodnight kiss will be easy after you read this article. All you have to do is watch her body language and how she acts during the night. Here are some first kiss clues to help you tell if she likes you or not.

1. If she giggles while you talk, this is a sure sign that she likes you.

2. She may show her affection by stroking your arm gently.

3. While you are leading her to her door step, if she is leaning on you for support, then she really likes you.

On your date, if any of these clues pop up, then I can guarantee you that she will want that goodnight kiss!

What do we do now? Should we kiss as soon as one of these clues is noticed or should we wait until we say good-bye? Those questions can be hard to answer because you have to pick the “right moment”. Let’s say that you guys are at a restaurant or a cafe. Suddenly, you guys lean in at the same time and look into each other’s eyes. This is the perfect moment. Take it because if you don’t, there might not be a next time.

Of course if you feel the date was spectacular, then there should be a goodnight kiss at the end. When you do your goodnight kiss, make sure you do the following.

1. Be Romantic: When you kiss her goodnight on the cheek, hold her as close as you can. If she does not hesitate or pull away, then that is your time to make the most of your first kiss.

2. Be Nervous and Sweet: While you are saying goodnight, grab hold of her hand and lift it to your lips. Then ask her if is alright to give her that first goodnight kiss.

3. Be Bold: If you are this kind of person, don’t bother to ask for permission, just go in for it! There might be a slight chance she likes it.

Those are some great kissing tips, and you should keep them in mind for your first date. It is understood that the first kiss is always the one that is accompanied by the most pressure. Many people are really nervous when it comes down to this. If the goodnight kiss doesn’t go as well as expected, then don’t worry. If it’s meant to be, there will be another chance.

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How To Deal With Anxiety Of The First Date

Oct 28

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The first date is one of the most significant events in the relationships of many couples. As important as this occasion is, it is also a very scary experience to go out with someone you have just met, or just decided to date. Perhaps the fact that this one significant date can potentially become the first step of a lifetime relationship is why this first date is such an important occurrence. Whatever the reason that the first date is so important; there are lots of reasons that there is pressure on the first date. The first date is so demanding because it either leads to the occurrence or non-occurrence of getting back together on the second date. Many people are shy and dating is challenging. If you have just come out of a serious relationship, there is pressure to get right back into a serious relationship even if that is means getting back together with your ex. And that can also happen!

One of the reasons that the first date is frightening is that the chances of a second date rest almost primarily on what takes place on the first date. If the first date is bad and things go sore, or the person you have asked out is uninterested where you take them, or if something is said or done that is unpleasant, it is hard to get passed that first bad impression that is left by the first date. Of all the reasons that may lead a date to disaster, most of the time, it does not matter whether the problem was intentionally caused or not. They always say that you only have one chance to make a first impression. This is often true in cases of disastrous first dates. One way you can help avoid this is to plan everything ahead of time even when you are getting back together for the dates that follow.

The second reason that a first date is so scary is because of nervousness. Majority of the people who yearn to make an impression in the dating scene are very shy. Some believe that shyness is a self-imposed condition. While this is in part true, many people are painfully shy and this nervousness is just as real to them as any other aspect of his or her life. To people like these, dating in general and first dates in particular can be very difficult. If a first date is intimidating to people who are not shy, imagine how scary it would be for a shy person. A way that a shy person can help solve this problem is possibly to listen to motivational tapes, read some good books on dating or get therapy to help him or her with self-esteem.

One other reason that someone might be sacred on a first date is that he or she might have just ended a serious relationship. If someone is trying to get back into the dating scene after a broken relationship, he or she may feel a certain pressure to find a new partner and begin another serious relationship again. This type of person must be sure that he or she is ready to start dating again. It may not be the right thing to do to start dating if there is no possibility of a new relationship with that person at that point. Plus, if that person moves on to a new relationship without being ready for it, the new relationship may not go well. If you still have feelings for your ex, consider getting back together instead of starting a relationship with someone new.

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Simple Dating Guideline On How To Communicate Successfully With Your Partner

Aug 10

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Almost every relationship regardless of how strong or weak it may appear starts with a date. Though relationships differ in many ways, they all have some elements in common that determine how well they do. One such component which is considered a very significant component to having a successful relationship is efficient communication. In fact, it is almost impractical to have any kind of relationship with a person less you can relate to him or her. The ability to communicate well means that you have to pay close attention and to listen very carefully. We all have diverse methods of communication, some more efficient than others. Regardless of your method of communication, you need to be able to understand, appreciate, and respect how other people communicate, particularly your date.

A good way to show your partner that you are listening carefully to him or her is to repeat what he or she has said. By saying that, you can verify what your partner has said and make him or her feel comfortable about speaking to you about his or her fear. This is particularly important if you are going on a date with someone for the first time. It is also significant to understand that it will take some time before you can find out what communication method is effective for both you and your partner. Of course the more you get back together on more dates the better understanding both of you will have about each other.

How you communicate with your words could bring comfort by reducing fear and easing tension. The following are some guiding principles to help you benefit from your words and communicate more successfully

Always try to make the person you are talking to feel protected by providing a lot of support and appreciation. This encourages the silent people to open up more and feel at home. But don’t make your date feel uncomfortable by judging, criticizing, or making fun of what he or she has to say. Many dates end up sore when one person is made uncomfortable by the other in the name of jokes; know when to draw the line.

You should always try to relax. Feeling worried can negatively interfere with your confidence and attention. Take deep breaths when you feel like you need to terminate the conversation due to fear or panic. You should remember that everything doesn’t have to be resolved all at once, some can wait.

Always listen carefully and don’t interrupt when the other person is talking. This is the main reason that may stop you from getting back together on another date. Stay away from the use offensive vocabularies and expressions. It is very disrespectful and belittles you and your date.

You should at all times remember to get to the point and be clear on what you want to get across or if you have any concerns. Majority of people beat around the bush and end up losing the chance of making a good impression. You don’t have to say everything on your first date, you can always continue with the details when you get back together on a second, third or fourth date. Find out more dating tips on getting back together site.

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