Are you scared that you’re not going to be able to get your ex boyfriend back? Are you flipping out thinking that it is finally really over and that there is no way for you to get him back? Have things gotten really bad and you need to know what to say and what to do to get him back?
Well, the first thing that you need to do is to stop worrying about getting him back. By focusing on the negative and the possibility that your relationship really might be over, you might be creating scenarios and thus making that your future. By focusing and believing that you will never get him back you will make that come true.
While thinking happy thoughts and visualizing your happy future together alone isn’t going to make your boyfriend come running back to you, trying to remain optimistic will improve your attitude. Your attitude is actually a lot more important than you might think in your success when it comes to getting him back. Just think about it. How attractive is someone that is negative and full of gloom and doom?
When the time does come to talk to your boyfriend again or see him how you do want to appear? Do you want him to look at you as being pathetic and down and depressed or do you want him to see the sparkle in your eyes and that wry smile that led to the friskiness that he once enjoyed. If you even hesitated and said that you wanted him to see you as depressed so he will feel sorry for you and take you back, think again. The pity takeback doesn’t last long and it will get you dumped within a day or two. Then all you will have is an ex that will be more careful next time. He will be telling himself that he will never let that happen again.
By shunning the worry and thinking more positive you will be showing him that you have confidence in yourself. You are the fun, exciting, attractive woman that he fell in love with. Without that confidence in you and your relationship, what chance do you really have of ever getting him back at all? Nobody can give you that confidence or have it for you. You need to believe it yourself and own it. You need to pull yourself together and prepare yourself to do what is necessary to make him see that he is making a big mistake if he lets you get away.
If you really want to get your ex boyfriend back there are tricks that can put the odds in your favor. Getting your boyfriend back really isn’t as difficult as you’re making it in your mind once you know these secrets.