Supporters of the Law of Attraction often sound as if it alone is the answer to life’s problems. While I do agree based on my own experiences and spiritual practice that you can effect changes in your life that way – it is only part of the solution.
One example is in the matter of relationships.
Suppose you have a goal of improving your relationship with your husband or wife. Perhaps you feel you are already in a good relationship, but you want to make it better. Or perhaps you are having negative feelings towards the other person. It would be a mistake to believe that all it takes is using the law of attraction in order to get the other person to change. The secret to achieving long-term improvements is to also change yourself.
So let’s list the steps to take to improve a relationship. (Of course, this isn’t meant to take the place of other actions you might have to take in some circumstances, such as abusive relationships.)
1. First, you must decide that you want to improve the relationship.
2. Second, set aside any negative feelings you might have about the other person. This might require waiting until a point in time when things are going well, or when you aren’t in the middle of the throes of resentment.
3. Third, reflect on the positive qualities of the other person, particularly those things that make you feel good. It might be those qualities that attracted you to the person to begin with. Or it might be qualities that you enjoy now, but that you want to experience more of. To help focus on these qualities, you can even write them down. Spend a little time each day to reflect on these, and to actually feel gratitude for those good things that you experience with the other person.
The changes may be small, but be alert to them, as any improvement can only pave the way for even greater improvement in the future.
I can attest to the fact that this does work, and I’ve had tremendous success with this in my own relationships. This includes not only my relationship with my wife, but also with my children. It’s even been a little uncanny how quickly things can change.
But once you find that the other person is more approachable, more agreeable, or however you wanted “them” to be, you may discover that there is still the issue of yourself. You may find that there are times when you aren’t in the mood for others to be pleasant. Now they are suddenly being as you wanted, but it’s not “at the right time”. Then what?
It would not be reasonable to think that it is just the other person who is responsible for any relationship issues. This is an opportunity to examine your own place in the relationship, and take ownership of what you bring to the table. This is the perfect time to see what you need to do to improve, as it will be hitting you in the face. Don’t run away from it. After all, you have attracted this situation to yourself. If your sincere goal was to improve your relationships, then this is in line with that goal.
You used law of attraction work to attract positive qualities in the other person. If you still find yourself with negative feelings, then know that they are coming from yourself. Why are you feeling that way? It may have been easy to blame others, but that often times just hid areas that needed to be examined. There is no reason to blame the other person now, so all that is left is yourself.
Now begins the real work – and you will find that it is well worth the effort. The law of conscious creation is merely one of many tools – it is not a panacea for all problems. The real solution involves serious self work to change your own outlook, and the law of attraction can be an invaluable tool to assist in that work.
